The Holistic Balance
Ever feel like you’re doing everything right but something’s still off? Like you’re hitting the gym, eating the greens, chasing goals… but inside, it’s a bit of a mess? Yeah, you’re not imagining it. Life isn’t compartmentalized. In holistic health, we know that when one area of your life is out of alignment, the ripple effects are real. It’s like trying to carry all the groceries from the car in one trip — you think you’ve got it… until the eggs crack, the bag rips, and suddenly you’re sitting in your driveway wondering why it’s always like this. This is the essence of imbalance: a need that isn’t being met. And when your needs — mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual — go unmet, they don’t just sit quietly in the corner. They leak into your energy, your mindset, your relationships, and even your physical health.
Let’s break it down - holistically.
The Four Layers of You
A holistic approach sees you as a full-spectrum being. You’re not just a body with goals or a brain with thoughts. You’re a multidimensional human made up of four interconnected layers:
Mind – your thoughts, beliefs, values, and inner dialogue
Body – your physical sensations, posture, energy, and where stress hides
Emotions – your feelings, triggers, and motivators
Spirit – your purpose, intuition, and soul’s deeper desires
When these layers are in alignment, you feel clear, grounded, and connected. When even one of them is off? It’s like wearing shoes that don’t quite fit — you can walk, but it’s uncomfortable, distracting, and slowly doing damage.
The Mind: Best Friend or Chaos Gremlin?
Your mind is powerful. It creates your beliefs, fuels your feelings, and narrates your every move. But here’s the thing — it’s always listening, and it takes everything you say seriously. If you keep saying, “I’m such a mess,” your mind doesn’t argue. It just gets to work creating evidence to support it.
Your mind has two main players:
The conscious mind: Logical, smart, the one setting goals and planning your dream future.
The subconscious mind: Emotional, reactive, and running the show 90-95% of the time.
If your conscious and subconscious aren’t aligned, you’ll feel stuck. Like, “I say I want to launch a business, but I keep binge-watching Netflix” kind of stuck. That’s because your subconscious might be running old programs from childhood — beliefs like I’m not good enough, I need to be perfect, or it’s not safe to be seen. These beliefs were formed to protect you, but they’re outdated. And until they’re updated, they’ll keep pulling the strings behind the scenes.
The Body: Your Emotional Hard Drive
Your body is way more than just how it looks or performs — it’s your emotional storage system. From day one, your nervous system has been collecting data. Every heartbreak, every moment of rejection, every awkward presentation in year 6… it’s all in there. When something triggers you now, your body often reacts before your brain can make sense of it. That tight chest, clenched jaw, or wave of nausea before a conversation? It’s your body saying, “We’ve been here before,” even if your brain doesn’t remember why.
This creates a feedback loop:
Trigger → Body reacts with sensation → Brain assigns meaning (often based on old patterns) → Emotions flood in → Body reacts more → Loop repeats.
The first step to breaking this cycle? Recognize the signs. Notice the clenched fists, the shallow breath, the sudden fatigue. Awareness is your doorway to change. Once you recognize the signal, you can pause and challenge it. Ask yourself: Is this reaction from the present moment, or am I being pulled into the past? Is this mine, or am I holding onto someone else’s fear, shame, or expectation? With practice, you’ll begin to separate real-time intuition from old, wired-in fear. And from there? You reclaim your power.
Left unprocessed, this stress can manifest as:
Chronic pain
Digestive issues
Hormonal imbalances
Sleep disturbances
Muscle tension
Skin and hair changes
Constant low-key burnout
Your body speaks. The real question is: are you listening?
When the Body Feels Safe, the Mind Softens
When your nervous system feels safe, your whole life feels softer. You breathe deeper. You think clearer. You make better choices. It’s not magic — it’s biology. But when you’re stuck in fight-or-flight mode? Everything feels urgent, heavy, and hard. You second-guess yourself. You shrink. You sabotage. You’re operating from survival, not strategy. This is why developing interoception (aka tuning into your internal sensations) is such a game-changer. When you can feel a wave of anxiety without spiraling, or recognize jaw tension before it becomes a migraine, you interrupt the cycle. You respond instead of react. That’s where true empowerment lives.
Spirit: The Part of You That Knows
Spirit doesn’t have to be about religion or crystals (though it can be). It’s the part of you that knows. The part that lights up when you're doing something that feels deeply aligned. It's your personal philosophy, your purpose, your deeper why. When you’re disconnected from this part of yourself, life can feel flat — even when it looks great on paper. But when you are connected? Life feels rich, intentional, and meaningful. You’re not just going through the motions — you’re moved by something bigger.
Emotions: Messengers, Not Enemies
Emotions aren’t the problem. Ignoring them is. Suppressing them is. Making them mean something about your worth is. Your emotions are data. They tell you what’s working and what’s not. They show you where you’re aligned — and where you’ve abandoned yourself. They aren’t here to ruin your day. They’re here to invite you inwards. Positive emotions signal safety and alignment. Negative ones? They’re like little alarm bells, pointing you toward a need that hasn’t been met, a boundary that’s been crossed, or a belief that needs unpacking. Instead of pushing emotions away, try asking: What are you here to show me?
Real Healing Is Reconnection
Whether you’re trying to shift your mindset, rebuild confidence, deepen self-trust, or feel more you again - holistic healing is about reconnection. It’s not about “fixing” yourself (you’re not broken). It’s about coming back to yourself — who you’ve always been underneath the noise, the roles, and the survival-mode conditioning.
Healing doesn’t happen in one big “aha” moment. It happens every time you:
Pause instead of push through
Get curious instead of self-critical
Choose presence over perfection
Ask yourself, What do I truly need right now?
From that awareness comes choice. And from choice? Lasting, soul-deep change. You are not just a mind. Not just a body. Not just your feelings or goals. You are all of it — beautifully intertwined, constantly communicating, always seeking wholeness. When you begin to listen (really listen) to each part of yourself with compassion and curiosity, you’ll stop feeling like a hot mess trying to keep it all together… and start feeling like the powerful, integrated, self-led woman you truly are.
Merilin